I also welcome you to the board. Your feellings will be well understood here b/c most of the population has been in your shoes. I haven't b/c I was from the other side of the fence.

So you have told us about how you feel, but not too much about the problems. Why did you detach from your W? Why did you want to avoid her?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!