Hopeless in NYC

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Now she has reversed her decision and wants to split it down the middle, insisting it's very fair (even before I said anything to the contrary). Her original idea was for me to buy a place closer to my job and that she would rent close to her folks. I was going to use those funds and buy a 2-bedroom not far from where I am now so our daughter would have a nice room of her own, but now the W is insisting we can both just buy 1-bedrooms and leave it at that. As it turns out, that's is a financially impossible reality because the price diff is small, and even if it were possible, our daughter wouldn't have her own room. Feels like my only choice is to just leave most of the money to the W and rent some crappy place myself...at least our daughter wins.

It's funny how her nervous tics keep showing through whenever she makes demands and threats, and especially when I don't immediately jump on board. Originally she threatens to go to lawyers, but when I say I need to consult with one, goes the other direction and says it's too expensive and that the money could be put to better use. Now she's pushing me and asking if I've thought about her 50/50 proposal. She hasn't done any research into the housing market, doesn't have a full-time job, hasn't talked to a loan officer. I know WAWs are supposed to have thought everything through long before leaving, but this is seriously starting to look like a Mickey Mouse operation. I thought I was the irresponsible one who never thought about logistics or planned anything. The worst part is I know she's blaming me for everything that goes wrong *after* she got out.