I would seek legal advice. Sometimes a spouse will move money around and quietly prepare to leave. Can you tell when the money was removed and where too?
This is a difficult road for you but you will feel more empowered by not accepting unacceptable behavior
Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.