[quote=Complex But she basically told me "when a spouse decides it's over, then it's over", [/quote]
I know a hundred recovered couples, including myself, where the cheating spouse expressed that exact sentiment.
Feelings are not fact Feelings change Feelings lie
It ain't over until the divorce papers are signed and even then...20% or so reconcile AFTER divorce.
A statement such as that from a supposedly trained counselor just baffles my mind but I hear about it all the time. Therapists don't really care about marriages ...they are trained to help and heal individuals and guide them towards individual "happiness". As you complain about your cheating spouse (which a betrayed spouse is prone to do) they will validate and mirror your statements back to you seemingly convincing you to get a divorce. They won't offer answers because they are counselors trained to draw answers from within you. They fail to understand that those answers don't exist within the betrayed spouse because if they knew what to do...they'd already being doing it.
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
