It's funny how I didn't even consider the illegal aspect. You're right, he could be funding this stuff with marital assets...
But I live in a no-fault state. Would a PI do anything in my favor? I'm not knocking that idea down, I honestly have no idea.
I don't even know how to broach the subject of finances with WAH. His income, the income we've been living on solely for the past 7 years, is sporadic because of his industry. Despite my best efforts we've never been able to live on ANY kind of budget. Granted there's no debt but he's a card-swiping man. His last Amex bill was $3,000 and it was almost all food. Anyway, I digress...
I think I'd need to talk to a lawyer to even know what to say to him about money.
True - California is a no fault state - unless illegal activity comes into play - I guess I'm thinking about custody.
I have an 80/20 split with STBX - I fully expect that someday he will want more and I will support that and be cooperative, but I like that right now I have them so much of the time and that I have full physical custody only because his behavior is unpredictable and somewhat erratic.
I would talk to a lawyer sooner than later - $3000 a month for food is a lot - and who knows when he will earn more?
