Hi SRD, yes I think examining your motives is really important. I have read some content on this forum about 'winning' back your spouse because you don't want to 'lose.' But when you have 'won' your prize, what happens then. I think it is important to dig quite deep here, and really think about how you want the rest of your life to be - overcome the element of wounded pride you feel (understandably.)
I hadn't realised you were from the UK SRD....until you posted 'bessie mates,' and I thought - ooh, he's British! There are quite a few Brits on the board - including me. Which part of the UK are you from?
A lot of times you have to look at what you are "winning". Sometimes you are winning someone who will betray you badly, put you in harms way and does not care about you at all.
