I don't know if I have truly and officially dropped the rope". I think I have (I think that's why I hardly post here anymore). But maybe that is what you are experiencing. Like, a tiny twinge of feeling, but no more sobbing on the floor.
The longer I'm in this, and the more I see myself growing and changing, the more I think that I'm not the one who's lost the most. And that this was not really about me.
It takes a really hurting person to walk away...and stay away...despite the growth and change they have seen in us.
It's possible your H is just being the best version of himself that he is capable of being. Maybe he is not a "bad" person, but your standards can be higher than that. And who knows. . Maybe our H ' s will be capable of the kind of self-reflection and growth we've been capable of. I'm not holding my breath for that. I've left my H to his journey.
