I've been following your stich from a distance for a few days now. I find it fascinating for some reason, perhaps because you seem so level-headed, so it's a respite from the frenzy that we so often show in our own threads. I also enjoyed knowing more of your background. Thanks for sharing.
First thing I wanted to say, is that you seem to have a very clear mind and a good idea of what's going on. Some suggest that you need to take a big step, but to me you're already on track. It's normal that you had a glimmer of hope recently and you handled it very well.
Thanks for sharing the letter. I encourage you to post your letters here before you send them. Many people have gotten great advice on how to phrase certain delicate things, avoiding mistakes and embarrassment. Sometimes, the advice is to send nothing! Also, it's unclear how we can help after the fact.
By the way, make sure you replace all names from anything you post here with the usual codes (H, SD11, [lawyer1], etc..) Privacy is taken seriously by the moderators and your stuff might be erased or you could be back in moderation.
I'm not a fan of letters at all, but yours started well and signaled a change of direction (yes to D). I don't think it useful though to guilt H over SD11's happiness, not coming from you. And MWD specifically advises against mentioning old pictures, good memories and the likes. I believe her that it does nothing to the WAS. Also, you still do a lot of hard selling by implying that you two were a good match, that you are what he's looking for. Apparently, this is counterproductive and the only way LBS will believe it is when they come to the same conclusion themselves.
Hope this helps.
M39 D6 D3 (at S) S 2014-09 D 2016-09
"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
