A LBS is just that...a left behind spouse whose spouse walked away from the M regardless of the kind of WAS (MLCer or WAS).
Originally Posted By: Karma12
Now what do you thing...about the difference between a LBS and MLC. 25yrs thinks it's sll an excuse and I can understand why she feels that way. Your thoughts?.
I will let 25 speak for herself. However, both 25 and I are of the view that the underlying DBing principles continues irrespective if your spouse is a MLCer or WAS which is working on YOU. The danger we both see in some newbies is trying to excuse the WAS' behavior on a potential MLC when oftentimes it is not the case at all which prevents them from using the gift of the time to work on themselves.
In all of my years on the boards, I have told THREE newbies in the Newcomers forum that their spouses were definitely MLCers and referred them to the MLC forum because as a former MLCer I am able to spot a true MLCer from a simple WAS. Those three newbies were Jer, Gwen and GoBlue. Jer and Gwen both have set up their tiki huts over in the MLC pool area while GoBlue chose to hang out in the Newcomers area.
In your sitch, I am reluctant to label your H as a MLCer because I do not have enough information and data to come to that sort of conclusion. To me, your H is a WAS at the moment unless I see additional details to refute it.
