Stupid, stupid, stupid. I woke up Sunday morning thinking about W's telling me on Friday that she couldn't pay her rent (and what that would do to d17 and s13 who live with W). And so on Sunday I called W before 9 am.

W answered "Wet?"

Me "Good morning. I was thinking about you saying that you can't pay your rent."

W: "Oh that's taken care of. I just got to sleep an hour ago. Can I call you later? I need to go back to sleep. Bye."

W did not call me back. And as soon as I hung up, I regretted calling her. I felt like I was back to my old ways of trying to "fix" W's problems, and once again "touching the hot stove". I've blown it with W 2 weeks in a row, now.

Weird how when I woke up Sunday I woke up confused, and felt compelled to call W when I never call her during the week, and only rarely text her. Time to get back on the DB wagon, enjoy my s13 an extra day here on Monday (day off for teacher grading day), and keep working on myself.

Last edited by Wet; 01/26/15 01:18 PM.

Me-54 yrs; W: 50 yrs
4 kids- D: 22,20,19; S:15
"Trial" Divorce: 04/14 - 6/14
Separated: 06/2013- divorced 08/2016

“The strongest of all warriors are these two — Time and Patience.” War and Peace