I think H is ignoring that his kids can think for themselves. As much as I think they need to love their father, they have their own take on this and it is not easy to just tell them something different.
Regarding my weekend, I need to be careful do not go into depression. I felt very depressive the whole time. It's so hard. I sometimes felt sick. I know I need to eat, but sometimes it feels that I can't really swollen anything. i am fighting all this feelings, I am trying very hard to keep myself sane through this.
Filling for the legal separation is almost like filing for the D, as a matter of fact I can serve my H with it and he can ask for the D instead and it will become the final D. For me, I want to make a point that I do not want the D, so I will file for Legal separation.
Why I will file? Just very simple to protect my children and myself. Maybe H will never hurt us financially, but I do not know this man anymore, he is not my H, at least not now. He is also entitling himself to have a different life and as far as I know he is justifying himself. So yes, he can do some BS move and hurt us all, maybe I will lose the house, retirement, etc.
My M is dead, he is moving on and I will move forward. If there is a chance for us then we will need to start all over again. For now, my security and my kids future is more important. And if H is really in the fog, he will thank me later for protecting him too against himself. Who knows.
Here in Colorado, Legal separation is a D without the final decree. Instead of a D decree, you get e separation one. So you determined everything as a normal D... custody, child support, alimony, who will do what, etc. ... but you are still married.
I gave a lot of tough to this and decided that this is the way to go. It may be even a good wake up call for H. He is very infatuated with his new love but I am quite sure he is thinking I will be always at his mercy, that I am a scared mouse stock in a corner.
This OW will leave soon, then H will be traveling for two weeks to Brasil. When he comes back I will have all the paperwork ready, will sit with him and serve it to him. Then another nightmare will begin. He will be pissed with me because he will finally figure it out that he will be financially destroyed. Well, not my problem. He must be happy I will give him what he is asking for...to be free from me.
I am facing the consequences of a bad M, so now it's time for my idiot H to face the consequences of his actions too.
My heart still hurts, I still cry a lot, but I made my choice and I think I will be better off taking care of business now.
