I'm just utterly gutted right now :(

[25yearsmlc]

It's definitely been a huge help and support to me too. It's nice having people experiencing the same thing being here to help. I also really appreciate the "tough love" that caused me to have a lot of introspection. I think i'm going to try and see if there's any counselors in town. I've never been before and right now is probably the right time to see one while my emotions are raw but i'm more open than i've ever been in my life.

You sound wonderfully ripe for change. That's a great time for going. Besides, If not now, when?

Did you check out that personal growth workshop called "Essential Experience"? (Sorry but now I'm not even sure if I told you specifically about it but), it's in Philadelphia. It's also called "EE" for short.

It is for individuals to work on their issues, whether from work related problems or childhood issues resurfacing, alcohol, temper, or just some obstacles to overcome or goals to clarify, "EE" is excellent for it.

For me, therapy was usually very helpful. But some times it was "fragmented" B/c right after I had an insight or breakthrough, I'd have to go back to work or pick up the kids. Therapy was only an hour. The next week I'd have to regroup and start over.

So at times, for me, a long weekend workshop like EE was more effective at creating change and sticking to it. Definitely the most profound workshop I've attended, and since then I've gone back a few times to do "team", which is like a free refresher course.

You would get A LOT out of it, I think. Anyhow, just check out their website.

Then in time, if your w is amenable, attending Retrovaille is also a great idea. But it's for couples, not individuals. We went to that when we began piecing, which was a lot harder than I expected, and it was just what we needed then.

But that's down the road. For now, start with a good counselor. If you don't connect well enough with them after a few meetings (very few, imo) then find another one.

You want to have a good fit, so you trust them, and so you believe you will dig deeply enough (or they'll help you with that) and of course you want to feel supported and not judged.




Thanks I guess 'convince' was the wrong word. She loves going out and i think besides me, one of her major sources of unhappiness was moving where we did and not realizing how tough it is with NOTHING to do unless it involves the outdoors. And just to note, i definitely offered many times to move but she didn't want to even though she was unhappy My only issue now is to try and balance on that line between trying to get her to see changes and not overdoing it and pushing her away.

My gut feeling is that you have a ways before getting to that point. (So maybe Don't borrow trouble from tomorrow...?).

Hang in there! GOOD LUCK, keep on keeping on.