Db'd after W D me in 04 remarried W in 07 DB again

[25yearsmlc]

Jbird

Do give a look at 2 videos on the TEDTALKS. I think they were both from 2012.

One talk is called something like "Faking til You Become It", given by Amy Cuddy,

& the other is Shawn Achor, who gave a presentation about "Positivity", (or something similar).

Both of the talks are about 20 minutes and easy to watch. More importantly is that they have real data, based on empirical research, to support their claims.

It's not hocus pocus feel good BS. It'd solid data about how WE can feel better by intention and action.

For instance, the idea for not changing or being stuck, often comes to us in a way that we justify by saying something like

"When I FEEL better, THEN I will behave differently" (or "lose weight, get in shape, go job hunting, Be more romantic, Be more positive, do the home projects", etc etc etc).

It's as if we believe that the desire to achieve or change will FIRST arrive in our laps, magically and spontaneously, and THEN will cause us to make the needed changes...which implies that we have no control over how we feel; and therefore, no control over how we act.

But what if, instead, we did as Amy Cuddy and Shawn Achor and others are suggesting, which is to say that

"As I begin to act differently, behave differently....---

THEN I will feel different/better!"

So, Create the emotion by DOING the act, rather than waiting to feel like it first, (which may never happen. That may be why you never made the changes your w had complained of..).

Make sense? Give a look at those videos and see what you think.

And hang in there, really.

Also, how are your children and your relationships with them doing? That is something you could work on, is it not?

Maybe one of your GAL activities could involve one?

Our focus, our attentions, should always be only on what we can control.

When you really take that^^ in, you can see how much time we all waste.

And then start living your life more fully.

Keep on keeping on.