Mighty

[Train]

Mighty,

AJ just hit on something I hadn't even considered: in addition to your H peeking out from his tunnel before the baby was born, he's also living right there beside you! Talk about a double-whammy!!!!!

When my H left for OW1 in 2005, he lived across the street and down three houses. I could NOT seem to detach. He eventually moved out and into an apt with OW1 in another town. And it was like: voila!!! Instant detachment. Because I couldn't see when he was home or not. Or when OW was visiting.

It made SUCH a difference!

You have no control over where XH is living.

But that helps put things into perspective, maybe, for why you feel you're possibly having a harder time detaching this time. Or right now anyway.

I have no words of wisdom or a solution per se. But sometimes it helps me, at least, to think of the potential pitfalls so I can find ways to avoid them. And I also like feeling like there's a specific REASON that maybe I'm not feeling like my old self. And then coming up with ways to avoid those triggers ...

I'm just rambling. But the fact that H is living right there really throws another monkey-wrench in your detachment efforts, I bet. Yuck!!! But like AJ said: You CAN do it. And you're a bada$s. And so you WILL.