Calibri (3)

[Vanilla]

Calibri

I have just read through your threads. I know that all of this is very confusing, hurtful and bewildering. It all seems very bleak and grim. Telling you that this is just a moment, a bottom in a long journey may be lacking comfort and peace.

This is what V understands, these WAS and waywards are very confused, sad and lost. One minute up, one minute down, running around like headless chickens. They seek an answer from this and then from that. An OP may distract them but then they want the comfort of their M. They need AD, IC, MC, S or D and then they do not. They are persuaded by X and the next minute Y.

If you are trying to understand this behaviour, monitor it, comfort when down and get angry when up then stop. Following will keep you locked in chasing a headless chicken up and down a spiral maze of cheese less tunnel.

STOP.

There is no sense in non sense. Calibri there is nothing you can do for H but let him alone to work his way through it. H is separate to you and you are separate to H. This H needs and wants to be left to work his way through his cheese less tunnel. Expect a long long wait and nothing else. H will pull you and then push you and perhaps without knowing why he does that.

Please do DB for you and not for your M or so your H will notice.

There is no explaining Your H behaviour, reactions or anything else. H is lost to himself. For your own sake let him be and look after Calibri. You may never know nor may your H the reasons for any of it. Those are past and all you have is today.

Seek extra legal advice and protect yourself. Your H may get influenced in ways that surprise you so buckle down to the practicalities of looking after you. If you and H become one again then you will be glad you did this.

V would love to comfort you, give you answers and instead V is saying look after Calibri. Practice Sandi guidelines in full for you.

Labug has given you very wise counsel to go dark for your own sake and to enable you to get some space and detatchment. Please follow her advice, a 180 for you to really go dark for your own sake and not for H.

I wish you peace of mind and light.

Vanilla