Ya it's goingto be rough...but I can't move out for financial reasons. She's the bread giver too. I could move to her dads as the only option, but I'm not going to move out. If someone is, she has to!
Do you think she will support you when she moves out? How will you be in better off if she is the one to leave?
I am not criticizing you about not being financial able to make it on your own, however I do want to give a piece of advice about being totally dependent on her, first, and her family second. In spite of our modern way of looking at some things, I still believe that most women grow to disrespect an able bodied man who she has to support (unless he's going through school, or something of that nature). If you left her house just to go to her father's house, I doubt that would be very effective in her seeing you strong and independent.
You have brought this up many times about your financial dependency on her. I am sure it has not been easy to move to a new country and set up securely right away. I just have to wonder what she hears and sees from you b/c of how you have talked about this in both threads. I believe it would be healthy for her to see you not so "needy" on her, or her family.
Besides finances, you depend on the M status to retain the green card, right? Your circle of aquaintences are limited to mostly her family? Depending on the man's personality and interaction with his W, I would think it could become easy for some women to begin to express a somewhat superior position in the R.
Sometimes I am not sure if you want to save the M b/c you love that much.....or b/c you need her so much. I do not say that in a flippant manner, but am seriously trying to get you to look at your own threads at how much you have explained it. Do what you can to become more self reliant, financially and socially. It is most important for her to respect you, and for some women it doesn't come easily. The honeymoon is over for her, and the storybook idea she had of bringing a new love over to her country has worn off. Now she is looking at another man who she thinks will be better for her.
There may not be much you can do at the moment to be more independent from her, but you can do it in attitude and behavior. Know what I mean?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
