In house separation is good and bad. It does make it very hard to detach, but once you do, it is actually ok. I see the kids all the time, and it's the most economical. On the down side, W doesn't feel many consequences, but we both know with the D clock ticking, those will come. On the up side, she sees me every day, she sees me more involved with the kids and more supportive. And she sees me GAL.
Whether she cares is a different thing. And being detached, I am pretty indifferent to what she sees or cares - she has to make and then live with her choices. Right now, I am doing what is best for me and my kids given my choices.
Originally Posted By: Complex
Because of her guilt she is willing to help me with whatever. Question is for how long and how I should deal with it...
Complex - you don't know if it's guilt or how long it will last. I will tell you that there is nothing preventing you from moving forward with your life. As to how long you should deal with it - I'd be thinking in terms of your permanent resident status to start. And if you can both be civil, there shouldn't be a need to move out.
