I understand about the pride. I always had to much in my MR. I believe it played a part in making it hard to apologize to my H, but I wouldn't say it was totally to blame. However, after I ended the A and had decided to stay in my M, I was having trouble getting off to sleep (for many months). Finally one night I went to my H crying my heart out, and really apologized that time, whereas before, I had given half-hearted ones. I think the remorse has to out-weigh the pride.
I think it is a good sign that she asks questions about why the blinds were closed, etc. it sounds as if she is curious. Do you realize how you can work that to your advantage? It is much better than her not giving a rat's a$$ what you do. If friends, neighbors, FB connections, family, etc. see you happy and living life to the fullest..........guess what will be the message she gets? A certain type of jealousy of knowing you can be fine without her in her life can work in your favor. Do you see what I mean?
I am not saying to lie to her, but when she asks you questions like she did with the LR blinds, you need to be a little vague in your answers. Don't tell her exactly what she wants to know. W: "Why were the blinds closed?". You: "Were they? I guess I didn't notice.". W: "What were you doing, was anyone with you?". You: (looks at her, laughs, shakes head and walks away.)
Learn to be mysterious. Think it is playing games? Well, it works with women, so you decide. Stop texting her and giving her your agenda.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
