Db'd after W D me in 04 remarried W in 07 DB again

[Jbird]

Karma thanks for stopping by my thread, I have been reading your thread but at this point I don't feel confident enough to say much about anyone's situation.

Actually there has been six OM, I actually forgot one on my last post and the fifth I posted but didn't give him a separate paragraph.

The OM I missed on my last post was during the time we were not married but I was living with her. She went to rehab for her opiate addiction and returned with a 19 yr old kid she was going to help stay clean. (I moved back home just a few days before she went to rehab) I caught her sleeping with this kids older brother who was an ex con. She had relapsed on painkillers and he would supply them free for sex.

At that point I detached completely, sent my children to live with my sister out of state and planned to move to where my sister was. W or Ex W at the time cleaned up her act and we got back together in Nov of 05 then remarried in Dec of 07.

Why am I still trying? I am convinced that her brother raping her repeatedly has led to the addiction problems and promiscuity. Several therapists have told me this and my own research backs up their theories.

I am going to work on my GAL goals and 180s for myself . I wasn't a perfect husband by any means, I displayed a lot of anger over the OM issues and also didn't understand opiate addiction in the beginning. The GAL and 180s will help me in the future no matter what happens with W.