He is unequipped and ill-skilled to make ANY adult decisions. It's not that he's a people pleaser, it's that he has no scruples and has absolutely no idea in the world who he is, what he stands for or what he wants.
Does he have a favorite color without someone telling him what it is? Has he always been like this or just recently?
When he's with you he says he wants to work on things.
When he's away from you he's signing up on a tinder.
When he's with the therapist he now needs boundaries and a mediator for any kind of communication with you.
When he's with his parents he's been lying to you about his needs because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings.
He can't think for himself, decide what HE wants.
Nicely put. Phew. I really wish we could all go have this conversation properly over some drinks.
Mid 30's Psych-abusive M with violent tantrums from XH D 9/15; NC forever on
