How do you detach when you are stil going through the day to day motions with someone?
I have read DR, but it a given my experience with detaching (as discussed above), her position didn't change 4 months into it. AND she was the one who brought the relationship up again, and said that she still didn't think it worked.
It's almost like she has a shield around her and refuses to go back in. And unless she has a chance to engage on the relationship, she will just file away all of the changes as superficial attempts for me to get her back.
I think the tricky thing for me is to understand how GAL and detaching work in an almost walk away scenario. I saw a post here earlier that said the response in A situation is almost completely different then in a non-A situation: the difference between a 180 and a be-present-and-empathize approach. Thoughts?
