I was hoping that the distance would help him take a look at himself and work on some things.
So, I think this is also why he would go from here to hww's. Maybe. And, now perhaps he will spend more time there.
I feel like maybe I see that more clearly since he was looking to see if we were around and since I wasn't, he went there? I mean, truthfully I don't know where he is, but... well.... I don't know.
Maybe it is good for him to really be "stuck" at bil for him to take a good look around at where he is.
If he does imply that he wants to hang around, I think I can simply let him know that if he wants to spend time with me, he will find a way.
So, he is there, I just don't want to know.
Hww is probably saying things about d13 hanging up. She is asking why the kids dont go see the baby. She just doesn't get it.
Sweetie, all of that ^^^^ is crazy making. I know its hard with him next door, but, you are going to make yourself nuts with those kinds of thoughts. I know that you are trying really hard. But until you really and truly let go, you are going to continue to go round and round.
He feels he needs to be there for the baby. It is what it is, right?
Its time for you to really believe that he needs to do this on his own. And maybe one day, his path will lead back to you and you can decide what you want. But for right now, you gotta let him go. You have to love him enough to do that..you have to love you enough to do that, too.
I know it isnt easy. I just hate to see you having these thoughts. You getting space cannot be with the hope that it makes a difference to him. It has to be for you.
I know you have been through a tsunami, but, you need to find your footing. Take some time. Figure out how to find your center. Let him go and get back on your path.
People are people, my friend. They are going to do what they are going to do. Nothing we can do to stop that. All we can do is control our actions.
