H sent me a text message basically saying he wasn't going to talk to me without a mediator, but he was open to us going to therapy to "see if we could sort ourselves out."
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But on the other hand, I don't want to be divorced. I love this man with everything that I have and then some. But I can't be married to the person he is right now.
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I do not know if I can come back from this. And I know, compared to other people on here, what I'm going through is small, small potatoes. The lying, the bs, it's all too much.
Hey Calibri, I know you were just venting here but there were some pretty interesting things in there. He says he's open to you going to therapy. Does he mean together? I think that is pretty good option, no? You say you don't want to be divorced. Have you dug deep on that? Is it fear, ego, genuine love for your H? The answer to that should guide your actions. I don't think you're dealing with small potatoes at all. At least I know it doesn't feel that way to you. We're all here because we stand to lose the same thing (our marriages). The details are different, but in the end we're all trying to figure out what to do with the same potato.
I was out with a group of single friends last night and thought of you. They we talking about the dating scene and how all the guys were on both eHarmony and Tinder. I guess I had the wrong impression about Tinder. Here at least it seems to be used as just another dating site. It was a pretty enlightening conversation that definitely makes be want my M to work out!
H 37 Me 36 Together 15 years Married 5 years No kids BD Apr 2014 H moved out 2 Jun 2014
