I believe it is. Plus, the WAH wants to keep things running smoothly without heavy scenes from his W. I think both the WAW & WAH want as little resistance from the LBS as possible. The WAS is ready to move on, while the LBS is still reeling with the hit of the BD. Not all WAS's are nice/friendly. Usually if they do not get what they want (especially women), they lose their niceness. I think men tend to work at keeping the LBW calm as he possibly can, which means being warm/friendly/nice. IMO, the WAW turns into a real b'tch and the H can see a greater degree of change in her than maybe the WAH shows his W. That is mostly based on what I have observed over many years of reading threads. I'm sure it can go either way, depending on the person.
Interesting on the differences in general between WAW & WAH. I don't feel I've seen much of a change in H, in many ways he acts like everything is the same except we don't sleep in the same bed or ML anymore. Maybe that is typical WAH behaviour then. He definitely did a bit of 'mothering' behaviour like Frank's WAW (maybe this is also typical WAS behaviour?). I also did a lot of crying and talking when he first dropped the bomb, and spent many days erupting in tears constantly (prior to finding DR) and he spent the whole time 'mothering' me and making me meals and stuff. Do you think guilt plays into it too as well as wanting cooperation?
Me 28 / H 28 M 1 / T 2.5 BOMB 12-3-14 "I don't feel like myself any more" Still living together, separate rooms.
