You sound pretty together, thats good. You re very active and doing great stuff. Maybe the only thing left for now is to move on for real in yoir head and heart too. Like 25ymlc said maybe the only thing that works if you pretend he is dead. The man you married IS dead in many ways... My situation does seem similar as i suspect my husband has add/adhd too. I am convinced that ifyour H and mine too (after 2 affairs and a whole lot of cr@p) do not make a life change and or get professional help, they will never change for long. So yes im glad you re moving on! It may be the only thing that opens their eyes and if not, the only way you (and me) will move on.
Ps. My sisters live in Scotland. Small world.
Me: 36 Him: 36 DD: 3y DD2: 1.5mo Together: 5y Married: > 3y D: April 1st '15 after 1y of affairs
