Many people on the board do say not to move out. But if you can't afford to remain there and you want to separate, that may be what you need to do. I moved out, but my sitch was different in that we have no kids and H's S lived with us at weekends. At the time, I just went to stay with my parents for a bit, and then that became more permanent when H didn't end the A. Looking back, I wouldn't have wanted to disrupt SS anyway.
In terms of consequences, of course there are plenty of these if you S. There is the huge consequence of no longer being a family together in a home with your D. There are also financial consequences, social consequences (how will others react). There is also the consequence that the R with OM will take the 'strain' if you are not living together and providing practical and moral support.
So, whilst many aren't in favour of moving out, I would say do what you need to do in the circumstances. Do what is best for you and to give your D the best home life possible if you do separate. Sorry she had a tough day. Hope she's feeling all better now.
Toots :-)
Hey toots
Thanks for that. I have to accept that there is nothing I can do about me staying here. Your right about the consequences. Our roles are quite revered to the norm in that I am the one who looks after the home in general. Has been very much so whilst she was getting her business off the ground. So housework, cooking etc all done by me as I had more time to do it whilst working at home. My wife is a pretty messy sort of person. I suppose with me not here that will only get worse. And yes she spent a lot of time talking with me. We have still been best of friends up until the point of me finding out last week. Financially yes she will be worse off.
Me:40 W:35 D:8 T:13 M:10 WAW: 7/14 PA Discovered: 1/15 at least 6 months Moved out and moved on
