WAH - gone almost 1 year, still so hard.

[stacey9]

Well D20 met the OW. She came home in tears. She went to H's home briefly and was so shocked to see all the OW's things there, holiday photos of the two of them together, letters addressed to OW. She asked her if she lived there and OW said yes.

D20 was not prepared for this and I think the reality of the situation just hit her. She was upset that H has this new life which doesn't include his children, and that there were no pictures of them in the house.

She also was not too impressed with OW, she said she was pleasant enough to her, but laughed at absolutely everything H said and D20 thought it was quite embarrassing.

I'm glad she told me all this, and that I was there to comfort her.

I didn't know they were living together, but I actually feel a bit better about that, knowing all the excitement of hopping back and forward to each others apartments has gone. Let them now deal with each others dirty laundry, bills, cleaning toilets etc etc....

I'm also angry that he's trying to get more money from me to help with the house costs, when he and the OW are managing a small house together on two very good salaries while I am struggling with the bills, trying to re-finance etc on my own.

But I won't show him this anger, I will continue to take the higher road and try to be the best person I can be.