He goes on to tell me that he never wanted to be married, have a child, that he caved on everything, everything he has given, done for me he has not wanted: all was to make me happy..
Wow, how much of myself I see in this. Those are exactly the horrible words I constantly hurt my W with, and every day I hate myself for saying them. Sure, it was the truth--I never intended to be a parent nor believed in marriage--but perspectives change. In my case it took 5 years. Yes, I violated my core values. But after all the hardship and existential turmoil, I can now say I wouldn't change anything that happened except for my own negative reaction. People come around.
Me:31 W:31 D:6 T: 9/2001 M: 1/2009 W unhappy: 6/14 W moves to parents: 10/14 W wants D (angry): 12/14 W okay w/ S: 2/15 W wants D (calm): 2/15 W gets new job/place: 3/15 W admits PA, suggests MC: 8/15
