That was just cr#ppy. I pick up my s13 from W's place on Friday afternoons. W asked me stop by earlier b/c she needed help setting up her new printer. B/c the kids need the printer for homework I agreed.
W was a mess, she was still in her pjs, and sat down before I started working on the printer, to tell me three close friends called with horrible news today - 1 lost a brother who died to drugs, 1 had to go the er, and the third had her mother die. I sat and gave W my full attention and told her I was sorry.
The printer was an easy fix, it just needed the disk/software installed. While it was installing, W and s13 were fighting the entire time. Pick up a plate, clean the kitchen, and s13 was being disrespectful. And I told him he will not speak to his mother this way.
Then W comes up (as I am at her computer and the printer was still installing) and says we should talk (I couldn't escape!) She tells me she can't afford her rent, the support I pay is not enough, and that we both need to get 2nd jobs. Then with s13 right there she says she can't afford the children. I listened carefully, but for this I kept my mouth shut.
S13 on the ride home felt horrible. He starts arguing/yelling at me for playing my music too loud, as I am just joyfully singing along to some good 80's music. When we get back to my place he turns on his video game and starts beating up the first three women he sees in the game. I point this out and that he is taking out his anger with his mom on these women in the game. He laughed, he got it. He's calmed down now.
I see so clearly how my W and children need more of me right now, but the separation prevents this. I am the only who keeps my s13 calmed down. And it is so frustrating to see that the only reason my W hasn't divorced me is that she only wants more money from me. This stinks.
