Thanks for the coaching. It is very valuable to me and I appreciate the time you are dedicating to me.
I went to the funeral today. My manager was devastated, she looked at me and she hugged me strong, she cried a lot and she said I know what she was feeling.
It was hard to see that strong sweet woman crying in such pain. But I hold my cool and gave her the support she so much needed. She said we are her family now.
I also went to the 3rd L, he was very nice and understanding. Very handsome too (Married). He explained me the whole D process and told me I am not going to be in a bad spot. His advice was to protect myself. He said that by his experience H can put me in a corner. He may cut all credit and stop the money deposits and then I will be stock without a L and it may force me to make some tip deal with him.
He also told me that if I do not want the D, I should file for a legal separation. Everything will be done as the D, but we will be still married and have some more time to decide on things.
I will sleep on it this weekend, but I am seriously consider the legal separation and then we will have our finances separated. I even think that it will be good in terms of having some kind of definition. Besides, I don't want to live with this fear that H will go crazy and will do something that can hurt us.
It is not the total end, but it may be a wake up call. H knows I do not want the D, so he feels comfortable doing all these disrespectful things around his family. And if it is the end, so be it.
I liked the 3rd L the most, so I will work with him. My kind of people. Straight forward, simple, to he point. I need to deposit $5000 and then it will all start.
H is quite, he is in the mountains now. He is having the 2015 annual sales meeting and this weekend everyone in the team goes to the mountains to have some group activities, some fun, dinners, you name it. And of course, H is with OW since she works for the same company.
Vanilla, you said why the hotel. This woman is not from Colorado, she is from France or somewhere in the states. What is really terrible is that beside the DIA there are many hotels, and most of them are good quality hotels. H decided to stay in one that is more like a motel, Days Inn, very small, tip, pretty bad in my opinion. I do not like to stay on those kind of hotels.
And he got caught paying a tip hotel, why not then be caught paying a nice hotel. I don't know, but it is pretty bad, don't you think?
Vanilla I agree with your advice. It is a little hard for me to think that H may be confused, that he may still thinks about me sometimes. But I am trying to see it all with a different vision then mine.
