I'm just utterly gutted right now :(

[Frank75]

DBing isn't a "game" it's a way to live your life that WILL save YOU. When your book comes in, be sure to read it right away.

Trust me when I tell you that ALL of our spouses said the same thing. That there is no hope, they're sure, etc.

Keep the focus on you. You can do it.

Why do you have to be the one that moves out? My W told me the same thing and I looked at her, laughed and said that if she was unhappy, then she can be the one who leaves.

It's just because this has gone on so long. She's been unhappy off and on for years, i just always thought we could fix it.

Sorry for the game comment, I just know her inside and out and she's never been a typical woman. She's very head strong and if i said "sorry we can't be friends" that would be that and right now i'm not strong enough to make good on something like that I'm too emotionally fragile right now.


As for the house, it was willed to her when her mom died. It's in her name. We moved here together and put money into it but according to WA law and an attorney that doesn't matter. In the grand scheme of things it doesn't matter to me anyway, i'd never want to take something her mom gave her away or force her to mortgage it. Yes, i'm probably too nice and despite our issues i could never do something like that to her.