The main thing you need to do is worry about the financials and get them sorted - you dont want to be funding an A but more than that you need to stop the rot so to speak so the hole doesnt get any deeper.
If you havent i'd suggest reading some of theodon's posts from around the place.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
