Eric- we have lawyers but to both minimize cost and nastiness we are trying to talk through most of it ourselves. That said- since he sent me first round papers completely different than what we talked about, I have not hesitated to open up a can of whoop a$$ and call him out and push back. I haven't used the subpeona records or financial docs etc but I've told him I will if I'm not comfortable with any info or docs he gives me. He might also be worried about how he'll look with former EA if he's lying since she ran the books for the company. As far as taxes- we would both be liable. I'm not sure if it will help or hurt, I feel like without knowing how much he received and if he paid taxes on it, I can't accurately guess. If he fudges anything in taxes, even after we D, my IRS payback plan ( due to his irresponsibility I might add) would go away and they would garnish my wages. Then again I do have a lawyer that helped us negotiate the initial payback and I would not hesitate to file an " innocent spouse" claim if he's not doing what he's supposed to. It's just costly for me to do it.
123Gwen- yes I'm stuck being at risk from his crap. It's not just an audit but as I noted above its way worse. I will do what I need to do to protect my IRS deal and my ability to take care of the kids. I don't care anymore if I pi$$ him off, but strangely the more I call him out the more he puts his tail between his legs and tries to make things right. I never thought I'd say this but I will happy when D is done so his financial BS won't be as risky for me. Still never say never about getting back together- but he's got nothin' I want right now and a lot of baggage to unpack!
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Me 41 H 40 M 20 T 23 S 19,16, 8 D 13 BD1 dec 2012 not sure going to work BD2 sep 2013 seeking a D Filed oct 2013, D Feb 2015 Life is about daring greatly, about being in the arena- Brene Brown
