Every time I try to encourage him to be more active with the kids, he gets mean and says this is just another example of how I can't handle any kind of pressure. Ever since our S in fact, anytime I've shown the slightest sadness he's said the reason I can't embrace a D and move on like everyone else is because I can't handle change and I don't know how to deal with adversity. I guess it's true. I am sickened beyond belief to say that I still want this man, even though his personality change in the last year has eroded my self-esteem to zero. This morning he told me I'm a manipulative, nasty person who only wants her way and when I started crying he said "Oh boo-hoo!" Who is this guy? I never would have married someone who bullys me like this! Maybe he's right though. There's a part of me that wants to call his bluff and move out and have him come back into the house and see what running a household alone is like, so yeah, I guess thoughts like that do make me manipulative. I'm not going to do anything until I talk to a L first and at this point, it looks like I have to. This marriage is completely unsalvageable—the old marriage, the possibility of a new marriage is not gonna happen and I know I have to accept that and move on. A L is more than likely to stay put, then I need to get back to work FT and file (he won't file, but he definitely wants a D). The whole thing just makes me sick to my stomach.
Last edited by Lorelai; 01/23/1507:37 PM.
Me: 38 H: 43 Kids: 2,4 T10 M6 BD: 1/14 11/14: H moves out
