I doubt you will ever be able to think or even guess to what's going on in her head.

Don't get excited over anything just yet. Of course she knew it wasn't alright with you for her to see OM. She wanted to know what you would do....if anything. Now comes the test.

BTW, stop having R talks with her that are not inside the counselor's office. You said yourself, they are not accomplishing anything. Besides, she's still not in piecing. She wants to see OM outside of work!

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!