I'm not speaking from personal experience here - because in my circumstance I had the BD, OW revelation and Separation all in one cr**py afternoon.
But I've seen 7 or 8 posters go through the revelation that you are experiencing and there is a silver lining and it looks like you have already discovered it.
That silver lining is a certain amount of clarity. It gives you better insight into what has really been happening and what you have been dealing with. And I think it really reinforces the notion that you have to let them go on their own journey and figure their own heads out.
