Until you have legal papers in place the federal government considers you married. I would be very uneasy about filing separately under any circumstances. You could tell him that you would be willing to do that if he signs an affidavit stating it is his desire to file separately. It might not hold up during an audit but it would certainly help.
Your gut has every reason to hesitate considering past history. actions speak louder than words. Hang in there.
M:25 years at BD w/ 2 daughters BD: 5/14 Separated 6/14 - H moved cross country w/OW D Final 9/17
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.” ― Maya Angelou
