One last thing. Over the last two months or so, I have seen through my partner's discussions how toxic the W's family was to the marriage and me. It never really felt that way at the time. The W and I always felt like the black sheep of the family. But now meeting and spending time with the partner's family, I have realised how miserable the W's family was and how I really didn't seem to fit into the relationship with them. I was just the W's husband, rather than a son in law.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.