I am so sorry for this latest development in your sitch. I agree, there is no excuse for an A, EA or PA. My question to you is, can you still be with or want to work on M with H after finding this out?
You said the deal breaker for you is any kind of A, EA or PA. You've read some of his messenger messages, but did not see his texts. If, and I don't suggest you try, you find out there were more flirty messages, does this mean you won't work on the M anymore? What constitutes an EA to you?
I'm like you, I never thought I'd tolerate any kind of A, now my W is in an EA she denies...and..you know the rest. But you'd be surprised what you can put up with...
I would suggest you not talk to H for 24-48hours about this...your own rule. Let yourself calm down befor you say something you don't mean, let him think things out as well. I feel you would lose your [censored] if you tried talking to him now.
Breathe. Ask yourself where you really draw the line, an what this means for you.
ME: 28 W: 24 M: 2.5yrs T: 5yrs BD: 22 SEP 14 W Leaves: 5 OCT 14
