Strong EA after 2yrs M - trying to detach. #3

[Mozza]

I'm glad if the tip helped you a little.

I didn't do any announcement or contact with my WAW's family. She contacted her parents to announce the S the minute we had an agreement to S (took a week from the start of the conversation, so the "secret" didn't last long). I've never met the rest of her family because they're scattered in two countries other than where her parents live, so my situation is different from yours. Since you asked a few times, I thought I'd tell you anyway.

In general, the rule is that each side handles his own family. You can find a formula to deflect questions. Also, it's not like people ask you: "So, are you going to S?" randomly. If you're asked "How are you?", it's not an excuse to open up about your sitch. Deflect the subject, talk about work, college courses or whatnot.

Also, I don't want to disappoint you, but your R with her family is not likely to endure the S. I'm telling you this in a generic sense, not about your particular R. Look around you at people who are S or D, do they really maintain a R with their ex-in-laws? Not really. Usually, there's some inertia that makes it last a few months or even a year, but over time, the person moves on and the family follows.