Strong EA after 2yrs M - trying to detach. #3

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And after asking a few times already -->
How did you guys hold it with your spouses family? Did you go dark on them when your spouse went 'dark' on you and let WAS handle everything by herself?
If she tells them, and I think she will soon, they (at least some of them) are going to approach me.
I'm planning on defending the situation and not make my W look bad. I want to stick with my DB plan. The family involvement definitely has potential to blow up, some of them will go viral.

Mozza your tip teally helped me today about how to control my feelings, fears and emotions. I think I actually do have them under control a lot when W is around. Then I let myself go when she's not.

I'm only 8 days in that I finally realized what's going on. I was very delusional for a long time. Don't know how much mourning time I can/should give myself. I'm trying to get my life back already.
My mentor told me a story today: one of his friends had a similar story than mine. He met his wife on a plane, love at first sight, they kissed on the plane right away, married for 4 years, she left him for someone else and he was completely crushed for over 2 years, he said you could barely talk to him. Until the day he put the pictures of his wife off the wall...after 2 years. 3 months later he found a new woman and got happier than he ever was.