I am sad for you that you are here. After reading your thread I was sure you had read DB and I suggest you read it again and again. I would like you to print out Sandi guidelines and refer to them as a practical way of applying DB, my recent copy is laminated as the old tear stained version fell to pieces.
All of the tremendous DB advice is captured there. Until Faith puts Faith and her precious child first before H then she is stuck in this loop. Truly Faith the basics are there and you are very willing to DB. Put your child and his needs of a home before H need to bum around the world like a hippy. It will not help you to validate such recklessness. H will continue to twist turn and make you jump up and down. Generally Faith says how high and was it high enough.
Faith do not leave your home. Get full on L advice and keep to it.
If this man has an OW then your health might be at risk too. It is your choice of course but the best 180 you can do is to apply Sandi guidelines In full right now and without delay. It is up to Faith to do the very best for herself and her vulnerable child. If you were a guy we would say find a pair and that applies to Faith too metaphorically. Do what needs to be done.
Tell H that you will not lie about your M. You are M and now S, there is a child involved and as the stable parent please put your child first. If you can get help do so. H delicate sensibilities are overridden by that of your child. You both clearly love this little one.
Time to get really practical and back to earth. Look at the no R talk and no gift guideline. Time to DB and concentrate on Faith not WAH.
I have you in my prayers Vanilla
Last edited by Vanilla; 01/23/1512:22 AM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
