Old dog seeks new trick 7

[Old Dog]

A few notes from my phone call with DB coach Chuck.

Thank her for letting me know that she was going to go on a date rather than find out.

Let her know I am planning on making a change. I need to examine our budget, tell her what I think depending on the result, get her input and then adjust it fairly.

Bring up my thought that I'm thinking of leavin as it will impact her and the kids. How do you feel about this?

Still act as though she is my sister.
Be calm and confident.
Have collaborative discussions out of mutual respect.
Let her see that this is not intended to punish her. Taking such action would backfire.
Let her see that I am leading, being pro active.

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I will take a look at our budget. She has been cake eating and it can't go on indefinately.

I'll hold the leaving thought for now. Too much at the same time I reckon.

After a few days away again and after speaking to Chuck, my Feel the fear coach and my knowledgable flatmates I feel I am able to handle things.