I agree my focus has to be on SD. I'm close to her maternal Grandma and we are doing our best to be there for SD.
We do have a legal seperation agreement and I did make him add a clause that allows SD access to me and the right to see me. When I left the home it broke my heart to leave her behind. I try to see her once a week and at that time thought if her Mother takes her one day, grandma talks her one day and I take her one day it will work out. Who knew her Mother was going to pass six months after I left.
All our finances were dealt with in the seperation agreement. He still owes me 75k that he has until July to pay me. He bought me out of my half of the house and I had used some money my Dad had left me in his Will to support us when H had lost his job. He makes much more money than I do and we had no prenup so he was lucky that I was fair and reasonable. I had also left most of the furniture behind. My plan is to file for divorce after he pays me out.
I know if I say anything right now about him not coming home he will deny it or say SD was exaggerating he got home earlier. Then he will give her crap for telling me. I told her that the next time he's out really late to call me and I will come get her. Or maybe I will just go there and sleep on the couch. If I catch him he can't deny and then I can say something.
She's the sweetest young woman too. All she wants is to be loved and supported. My family all think of her as part of our family. My kids are aged 32-25 and think of her as a little sister. shes coming over again Sunday for my eldest sons 32 birthday.
Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.
