Hi RD - Oh well, at least you went on the date. As you say, maybe you just weren't ready for that. And sometimes, whilst someone is nice, there just isn't that spark.

Sorry to hear about the relaxation class - that's a shame. Did you have a chat about how you felt with your LC? It's good that you are seeing her and she knows your W too. There has been some interesting stuff on the boards recently (Mozza's sitch) about engaging with brutal reality, whilst maintaining faith in an eventual positive outcome. I think it was called the Stockdale principle. You mentioning 'walling things up' and finding it hard to accept what is happening, just made me think of it. It might be interesting for you to read.

Your W does sound as though she is struggling with everything. Whatever the status of things with this chap, it doesn't sound as though she is finding happiness. Is she suggesting any ways forward at all RD? I know at one time, she hoped you might leave and she would rejoin the family. Is that still the case?

Sounds like you are doing pretty well all in all RD - and enjoying some family time....tho it would be good to see another GAL activity in there if the relaxation class is off your list.

Sending good wishes to you across the Irish Channel....Toots x

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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus