Raliced - No. 5

[Ahoy]

raliced, likely you'll never be able to make sense of why it happened, and I doubt that anything you could have done would have made a difference. Even if you had been the perfect wife, if he was having an MLC he would find faults with you as part of his self-reasoning to leave. It's always good to strive for self-improvement, but do it for you, and not in reaction to any nonsense that he might have spewed on the way out. I'm sure you didn't hold him back from being a cowboy. (That just sounds ridiculous.) My H has turned into a hipster since leaving -- it's pretty hilarious actually. It makes me realize how shallow his self-identity is if he thinks it can be altered just by growing a beard and dressing in a certain way. These are people who are struggling with their identity. Just be glad that you have a strong sense of self -- and there will be people out there who appreciate you for who you are.