Pink

My lovely Pink, this is just the start of the new way forward. You have been very brave and I am going to tell you that I ran into H with his OW in a local pub. It was hurtful but also quite funny to see H behave like a nasty little squirmy fox. OW's H was there too.

I cried for a long time and fretted. H was indignant and wanted to keep his eyes on V. It was irritating. H threaten divorce, V got her fins agreed. It has all calmed down again. H is still compulsive but we are still S in the same house.

Please Pink drop the catastrophe thinking, you may now have the upper hand over the weasle behaviour of your H. Having an A is despicable nothing absolutely nothing excuses such wayward behaviour. It is simply the most awful experience and I remember the terrible time following this.

Think carefully, keep evidence, I wished I had kept a photo or copy of the emails. Sneaky H deleted these before I could get a copy. Consult an L about what you need and move quickly.

Avoiding H will work for a short time until you get your head together.

Pink let us rehearse what you will do when you do run into him.

If you are not ready then 'H I am not ready to speak to you and I feel it would be very damaging if we talk now. Please do not contact me until I let you know by text that I am ready to talk. I would like you to leave now.'

That is more or less what I said to my H. We have not talked about this since, I let him sit in his own guilt. I let it go because its scum bag behaviour stuff and frankly I will not let him excuse it or explain it away. OW turned out to be a fish wife drama queen so I let the conversation die when they had a drunken fight in my holiday home in the middle of the night. A 94 year old neighbour let me know about it and I made him apologise for the noise, but it was clear I knew what was going on.

These waywards have no brain cells, they make as much sense as an adolescent not wanting to eat, bath or do more than grump. There is no making this junk up.

Pink, this will be unbearable but you are welcome to rest in Vanilla's heart as long as you want.

Tenderness

Vanilla

Last edited by Vanilla; 01/22/15 05:38 PM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
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