I have never busted him, nor have I seen them together. At all. H refuses to introduce ow to friends and customers. He pretends when out she isn't with him, but then goes to great lengths to put it out on fb, in a way. Meh! Meh.
Speaks volumes for guilt it's why I think she will be jettisoned I think the reason why he hasn't is there is no fitting replacement that will stand up to looking like a moral human.
Meh, my life moved on well and truely. Put the car in gear and just head out, see where you end up lovely pink.
Today might be the day to buy a rip roaring hot pink dress huh? Go the whole hog shoes bag and go out on the town.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
Hope the rest of your day went okay yesterday. Did H stop by the house at all?
I thought of you yesterday. I was in the car and Conga Del Fuego by Marquez was playing on the radio. What a great piece of music! I had visions of Pink dancing away to that one. Do you know it? It's a good one to play if you are ever feeling low I think.
Hope you managed to get some sleep. Keep at it with the food - little of what you fancy etc. Thinking of you xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
hope today finds you feeling more centred and peaceful. Its hard on us the lbs'es as we asymmetrically care and see nothing back and then re-spool through our histories looking at the good and trying to see what happened to get here.
Sorry you're going through this.
(((Pink)))
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
Your words are so much comfort to me. Sometimes I feel like we are sisters. By the way, a cup of coffee or tea would be great.
Yes Toots, as I predicted H stopped by the house to drop off the boys stuff. It was 6:46pm he text me saying he left a cooler, pillow and coats by the door. Some nonsense message since I am not blind yet.
So, he came to the house and there was no one here. I am glad his plan did not work. Today, he is coming to pick up the kids by 7am. Again, I think he will get here just a little earlier and try to set up some time for us to "talk". I will be leaving the house by 6:40am, so he can't see me or talk to me.
I don't know if what I am doing is right or wrong, but the OW is still in town. I can't just pretend that everything is OK, and I don't want to hear how sorry he is or whatever stupid excuse he wants to give me or even talk about the D.
I am setting up an appointment with another attorney. I want to check if this L are in the same page. Then I will make a decision of who I will work with.
I am very confused about filing the D. Sometimes I want to just file it and finish with the whole drama, some other times I feel that why not to wait, H is the one that wants it, then he can file. I just don't know what to do. Maybe I need to seat on it for a little longer and see if I can get to some conclusion.
The first L I saw told me that would be better to file asap since I know that there is OW in the picture. He said that H can start spending lots of money and it will complicate the D.
Today was a bad day for me. It was all good, but I felt like crap the whole day. The reality is that I do not see any hope at all. I feel that next time we talk will be about the D and that he wants to separate finances and finish everything between us.
I know it's going to happen sooner or later, but I wish I had some hope and I don't. Maybe some people get back together after such tragedy, but most couples separate and it's forever.
I wish I could see some sign at least that H is somewhat confused, but there is nothing. He send me this text because he is feeling guilty, not because he cares about me. It's all about him.
Maybe I go back to what Wonka said, that H is an MLCer, maybe this all explain itself if this is the case, but it does not change the outcome.
I need to detach, and it's harder then I tough it would be. I need to get busy, but I am tired. There is just so much emotions all over the place that I am so tired of dealing with all of this.
Today, another busy day. Work is busy, will be busy with kids, need to go to the bank, do some paperwork, laundry, dinner, S17 guitar lesson, buy a book for school project, and if I have some time go to bible study.
Hope that slowly things will get better. Hugs, Pink
You say there is nothing you can say that will take the hurt away. But you said the magic word that makes it all better... "but know that I care".
So sweet, it makes a world of difference in my day just because you "Jim" said I care. It brings me a smile and a good feeling knowing that there is someone out there that cares about me.
Stacy - My H did not totally lied to me, since the beginning he said he had feeling for someone, a coworker from another office. He did not mention that things were moving really fast or if this is going on for a lot longer then just now. So there was some truth and some lies.
Suzana - Yes it is awful, and sometimes I even question myself if this was the best thing for me. I guess I will digest it with time and get where I need to be. But yes, it hurts a lot.
Thanks for your kind words of hope. Unfortunately I do not have much hope. H was very determined to move forward with D after the whole soap opera that we have been going through.
But now, I think that things escalated a lot. He is having a full A with the OW. I wish I can hope but I would be lying to myself and I do not want to hurt no more. So I really believe I need to detach as much and as fast as I can.
I also do not know what to do anymore. For now, I feel like I do not want to have any contact with him. But, how can I be all nice with him when I know all what he is doing?
I can maintain a business like R, but the smiles and feeling upbeat, that I will need to train myself and I don't even know if it is worthy.
SRD thanks for posting. And I am sorry you need to find out such awful truth. You know, my H's OW is married yet, lives in the same house as her husband, told my H that she is separated but they still live together. She also has a son that is 8 years old.
What a mess these two are making. We have a long road ahead of us, but maybe our will be a lot cleaner.
Hope you find some peace inside yourself and keep up with some GAL.
