WAW Dating - Oh noes!!..

[LoveMyW]

Well as every day passes I'm seeing the benefits behind all the vets advice, and all of the other people on here in the know..

We get told to pull back and they will come closer.. I am finding this to ring true.. Although I'm only seeing baby-baby steps at the moment, the steps are there.. Exchanges with W are becoming more friendly than cordial and she is wanting to know a bit more about things going on with me lately etc.. This hasn't happened in a while so it's a change..

We get told to do what works.. At the moment, I have found my best path so far.. I tried many different plans of attack, but for the time being I've found what works for me..

We get told to detach.. It's amazing how you feel when you meet that path and start walking down it.. I have noticed I am thinking more objectively, I'm not having the sitch on my mind anywhere near as much any more and I've still kept the feeling of love for my W, and hope for R/New M without it being my major thought..

We get told to GAL.. Even though most of my big GAL is with the kids when I have them, I have still got a fair bit of solo GAL under my belt.. I haven't had a chance to try something completely unknown to me (apart from my new job) but I have got back in to some old hobbies..


All in all, I am noticing how I am interacting not only with W, but with the kids, co-workers and anyone else.. Validation seems to have been a big thing that I should have been working on for ages.. Now I have started employing that in every available circumstance and I have noticed the quelling side of things.. It would probably be a 180 for me even though I've really only just noticed how little validating I did!!..

Thanks to everyone who has had input so far (and that's pretty much everyone as I try to read as many sitch's as I can!!) and lets keep on going!!..