Thanks for all the comments and support guys! I left the car packed up today, so need to bring the stuff up into the flat and go through it.

Thanks Edz. Yes I did (do?) feel a bit melancholy. I have a mental image now of our forlorn lounge. When I first met H (a year after his separation) his house was really messy. I see ours starting to head in the same way & it worries me a bit - especially if we decide to sell it.

V - thanks for taking the time to read my sitch, in amongst your great busyness (end January not too far away now!) I liked your comment....I dare say it will unravel at some point....it reminds me not to ruminate on it all too much. I have been feeling pretty 'shruggy shouldered' about him lately, but being closer to things again (talk & house) has him on my mind again. I'll get busy & it will pass & I'll say your comment to myself.

Thanks GG. I think for now, any stuff I'm unsure about, I'll put in my 'not sure' suitcase, which already contains my wedding dress and jacket. And I'll come back to it at a later time. H often bought me clothes and jewellery for Xmas & Birthdays, and some of the things I feel fine about wearing. Others not. I'm not sure why, but I just have an instinctive reaction to them.

Have a good day all xx


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T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus